bdsm builds strong bonds & trust in ways that are useful outside of a sexual space.

constant checking in. constant communication. constant reaffirmation. constant respect of boundaries.

don’t let the “sex” part distract from the practice of consent in relationships.

CHECK IN!

Can we be done now? Please? It’s time to call it. Y’all had fun but it’s time for your friend to go home. I’m sure his ppl miss him. Help him get his belongings together. I’ll call his mama and tell her we are on the way.

just took the rest of the week off

cousins, update on deWhite neighbor

I had to send the text below because I had enough. I ordered a doorbell camera too in hopes of deterring him. he moved his outside chair to the front of his unit where I can’t see him.

here’s to hoping this chapter is over.

I always think of jobs I may have had waaay way back in the very early days, in past lives, and I think i would’ve been a mean glass cleaner. I would have that shit look cleeeeeeeean.

this week in a nutshell

Blkem hack until it gets fixed:

if the app keeps closing when trying to post a photo, write and edit blurt in notes. copy& paste to blurt. add the photo & once it loads hit blurt immediately.

you do not have time to reread because the app may close.

hope this is helpful.

Any cousins watching:

Jasmine is the reason why I will never let the title of wife or mother be the definition of who I am.

the conditioning of 💍being a flex gotta stop.

ex-wife & widow are also titles.

titles change.

titles are additions to your life, not the definition.

I remember a cousin sharing that they just became a certified travel agent.

I’m looking to plan a trip to Belize for my line’s 10th AKAversary.

That new Conway the Machine got me feeling like im in CMB

me dodging Renaissance spoilers for the next 3 months:

when I tell you I sobbed.

they will never ever break us. never.

you ever clean up so good you hid shit from yourself?

I hope everyone learned about snitching for the sake of self-preservation cuz we ain’t heard nothing new about that freaknik doc but know everybody’s business. ain’t that something.

Why are smart phones still $1000 pre-rebates/discounts/deals?

It’s been almost 20 years. We can’t possibly still be paying for the tech or labor considering they are all made in low-wage countries.

I find it difficult to believe manufacturing them is $500+ per phone.

why is it always the security guard who fought in the civil war who wants to hassle me about my receipt. sir, respectfully, sitcho ass down, Otis.

I had just started a new job. was the only black person at a boutique community relations firm.

I came in and found this on my desk from my boss.

guess the reason why she thought I would want this.

take one guess.

yeah, not awkward at all 🫠

just finished booking all my June trips. 😩

me and my bestie are like 8 year olds and 80 year olds. there is no middle and I love it.

I’m attempting to not buy weed and not buy wine for my house.

not sure how long it will last but I must show myself I have discipline.

I can’t be true to myself if I’m hiding behind vices.

wish me luck.

1. when Syndrome from the incredibles bought the bird app

2. Nov 2022

middle school and HS relationships were so dramatic. so intense. so many feelings.

we really thought we met our forever spouse in 7th grade 😩😩😩🤭🤭🤭

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day is triggering for me.

outside of them being money grabs like Christmas and Valentine’s Day, it reminds me that I don’t have a relationship with my mom, my dad died & wasn’t present when he was alive, & I’m a single parent so I don’t get celebrated.

gatekeeping: my other neighbor, Latina, had a shirt w/this pic on it. I was confused cuz ive known her for 10 yrs & had no concerns. I asked her if she had cops in her fam. she said it represents the Guatemala 🇬🇹& 🇺🇸. I let her know what it meant to Blk ppl. she had no clue

Coachella 2023

one of my favorite parts of the movie “Poetic Justice” is them smelling bbq from the freeway and knowing which exit to get off on and where the park was to crash that family reunion.

you smell bbq going 70mph on the freeway?

that’s some super negro powers right there.

@NoDeB8 I’m so happy you’re in here!

I don’t take critiques from ppl who skin can’t glow without a tan.

my coworker wants to have a pre-meeting to touch base before our actual meeting and then a post-meeting to go over the meeting.

how about: